Becoming Whole Again*
These three processes all divide our experience in different
ways, fragmenting us into warring parts and interfering
with our full enjoyment of living. Grief separates us unnecessarily from the rich and resourceful
feelings that we have had with someone we loved, but who is now lost
to us. Grief also divides us internally, between a part that is preoccupied
with the feeling of emptiness in response to the loss and the fear of
being hurt again, and another part that wants to reconnect with others
and reenter the land of the living.
Judgement transforms a rich and complex experience of liking
or disliking something
into an oversimplified and information-poor evaluation of good or bad.
This sets our feet on a path that results in great difficulties both
for ourselves and those
around us. Faced with an either/or forced choice between
good and evil, I have to struggle
to eliminate the bad in myself as well as in the world.
My judgement traps both myself and others in a process that begins with
separation and rejection, and
often ends in violence and killing.
Anger separates us from those who harmed us, in order to protect
us. But it also divides us internally. One part of us is preoccupied
with resentment and thoughts of revenge to protect us from further harm.
Another part would like to be free of this preoccupation and return
to enjoying life.
All these processes fragment us, and make it impossible to experience
the wholeness and connection
with others and our surroundings that is at least one aspect
of spiritual experience and a spiritual life.
This workshop will teach you very systematic patterns developed
by Steve and Connirae Andreas to heal these conflicts and become whole
will learn how to:
Transform grief in response to a loss into a resourceful and
joyful reconnection with the feeling of presence of the lost person
when the person needs to make a shift in the content of their
experience of loss.
the unique submodality differences between the loss experience and
an opposite experience of presence and fullness.
Using the submodality differences
to change the dissociated loss into a resourceful associated experience
of presence and fullness.
experience of fullness into the future, so that it draws you to reconnect
with people in your life and establish new relationships.
same pattern for the loss of a dream, and for lost things, activities,
information and locations.
Transform an absolute and universal experience of judgement of
good/bad into a rich personal experience of preference by:
and reconnecting with the elements of experience that are deleted
in a judgement.
the coercion in judgement that disconnects you from both yourself
compassion for both yourself and others, and reconnecting with them.
the personal power to choose and influence others, that was lost in
the absolute judgement.
Transform anger into a congruent and compassionate forgiveness
that supports doing whatever is necessary to protect you from repetition
of the harm that was done to you by:
how to satisfy the objections that prevent someone from even considering
forgiveness as a solution.
the limiting presuppositions that permit and support anger.
the unique submodality differences between an experience of anger
and one of forgiveness.
or teaching effective means of protection from future harm that is
necessary to fully embracing forgiveness.
anger into forgiveness by using the submodality differences between
The Forgiveness Pattern (audiotape)
Live client video demonstration of the
Forgiveness process, with introduction and follow-up commentary on the